achieve your dreams

How to Achieve Your Wildest Dreams

The best luck of all is the luck you make yourself’ Douglas MacArthur

When I tell people about my work history, people often ooh and ah about how lucky I am that I’ve always had ‘dream jobs’.   My three main job titles have included ‘cake business owner’, ‘travel writer’ and now ‘business coach’.  These have all been incredible jobs – but it’s not down to luck.

People often say things to me like ‘I wish I could be doing what you’re doing’ or ‘I’ve always wanted to start a business” and my answer is always the same – “You can”.

There are certain aspects of our life that do just come down to luck.  The fact that I was born in a first world country, the fact that I am (so far) very healthy, the fact that I can eat a could likely eat an entire cheesecake and not get sick of it…  But for the most part, what we make of our lives is down to us.

I firmly believe that anybody can do anything – if they want it badly enough. The problem isn’t that they don’t have the skills or that they haven’t had a lucky break, often the problem is that they’ve decided they can’t do it before they’ve even tried.

If you want to be a doctor – study.

If you want to be a dancer – practice.

If you want to be an entrepreneur –start

The reality is that the only thing holding you back is you.

I’m aware that a lot of the people reading this will, at this stage, be rolling their eyes and reeling off reasons why I’m wrong.  Stop it.  What you’re doing right now is the very thing that is in your way.  Everyone has reasons why it’s not a good time or why it would cause an inconvenience.  But here’s the thing – it’s never the right time.  And the difference between those who achieve their dreams and those that don’t is making the decision to do so.

Luck is used as an excuse or a reasoning why people don’t reach their potential.

I can appreciate that taking that leap can be a scary thought, but it’s not supposed to be easy.  So many people say to me ‘I want to do X but I’m not that kind of person’ or ‘I’d love to do Y but I just don’t know how’.  Here’s a little secret – nobody knows what they are doing, they all just figure it out as they go along.  My process for making decisions is this:

Step 1:  Decide that I AM going to do something

Step 2: Figure out how

Decide you’re going to do something first and then figure out the rest.  If you let yourself run through every possible problem or hiccup first then you’ll never go for it.

Once you have decided to go for something (congratulations) then it’s time to work out how you’re going to get there.  There’s no use working your ass off without some sort of structure in place.  Make a plan and work back from where you want to be, cutting the process down into manageable stepping stones.

When you have made a roadmap to your dreams you will see that it’s not as out of reach as you thought.

When you have a plan in place you can get stuck right into it.  Then you’ll know that every little thing you do will be a part of a bigger process.  Then you need to work, work and work some more.  You’ll have some great days, you’ll have some shitty days and you’ll have some days when you forget why you even wanted this in the first place – but stick with it.

It’s not about luck – it’s about determination and bloody hard work.

‘The World is a magical place – choose your own adventure.’ Walt Disney